Pretty in Pearls

Birthdays...Thanksgiving...Christmas These are always really hard times of the year and YES, sometimes I get jealous. I know you're wondering "well what in the heck do you get jealous about." Well, it's simple...when I hear someone say, "I called my mom today" or "I'm going shopping with my mom" that makes me a little jealous. Simple everyday things you get to do with your mother makes me miss my mother even more.   But, just because I get jealous for a split second doesn't mean I am not happy for my family and friends. It simply means you have something I long for. It means I miss my mom and it makes me sad when I am reminded that I will never have those moments with her again. Sometimes I think...man, life's really not fair. I am finally at the age where my mother is supposed to be my best friend, my go-to for anything, my sounding board, my shopping partner, constant contact, the glue to our family. But, instead it's just...

Hey readers!!  Today's post is about another epiphany I had on yesterday. I love these moments because they are so much more memorable and it's the closure I get from all the moments I've said "I know I'm supposed to learn something from this storm."  Yesterday I had a learning experience.  Many of you know, if you've been following my blog, the last few months have been well...a roller coaster ride. So, here is one moment I never elaborated on. I guess I wasn't ready until now.  My 29th birthday was in August and my husband surprised me with a trip to Vegas. He knew I'd had a rough go at things and I really NEEDED that break. Our flight and hotel were paid in full and we were going to spend 4 nights and 5 days in Las Vegas. Boy was I excited! The night before our flight was scheduled to leave we stayed up all night packing, laughing and enjoying each other's company because the next day was my birthday and our flight left on MY BIR...

I've had a blog on my heart and I have been going back and forth about how to word it. I don't ever want my blog to be one sided or for someone to feel like my blog is not for them. I understand everyone won't relate to every single post but I don't want to re-direct a reader from my blog either. So, I have decided to just go with it. This blog is about SUPPORT. Specifically, women supporting other women. Supporting each other and not making quick judgements and assumptions about someone you barely know. Over the years I have noticed that women find it really hard to support other women. When I see a female in a supervisor role, particularly for me, an African American female, instead of judging, turning my nose the other way, or jumping on the bandwagon with others that don't believe she is capable, I applaud her. I congratulate her. I let her success motivate me to do better. I SUPPORT HER. It's the crabs in a bucket mentality that I cannot understand. There...

Welcome back readers! I'm just going to jump right in to this one. I can deal with many things as a woman, as a sister, as a daughter, and as a wife. I recently had an encounter where someone said something and their words were only meant for evil. At that moment I had to trust what God told me to do. Filled with anger I wanted to respond SO bad...with every fiber of my being I wanted to use my words to cause just as much pain that had been spewed our way. BUT, sometimes silence is golden. (This is one of those meaningless relationships I spoke of in my last blog but it is also one I can't avoid completely. It's complicated).  Instead of responding I was the "bigger person" and said very little. I realize eventually being the bigger person gets old and I am almost at my breaking point with taking the high road with this person. I know this because it took me a while to accept that I did the "right" thing in this instance. I now know when you'...

Happy Sunday Readers, I am trying to get back into the groove of writing at least once a week but...the way my life set up! Hahaha...just kidding, but lately it has been quite difficult to get one blog a month in let alone one a week. To make up for my lack of posting today I have a very interesting topic about growth, friendship, and knowing when it's okay to walk away. So it is no secret, since I have mentioned it in my blog, that this year has been no picnic. But, earlier this month I was talking to my husband and he said, "you know, when everyone needs you they call you and you listen and help them through, but when you need them they are no where to be found...I guess it's because you don't really reach out." I was thinking maybe he is right, maybe I just don't reach out and say, "giiiirl I need to talk." BUT, I was also thinking that in some form I have mentioned in my blogs that this year has been a little rough...if my friends are actuall...

Hey Ya'll!!! To start things off, I have had another hard couple of weeks. I just can't seem to catch a break this year...but as always I am still moving forward and trying not to look back. This year is not over and I still have some pretty awesome moments to look forward to. On a brighter note I turned 1 year older. :) I know everyone is waiting on an update with my weight and I am now FINALLY excited to share some results with you. I have struggled with seeing any results though everyone around me has been saying THEY see them. Lol...Remember, we are our own worse enemy sometimes.  This is no easy journey but it does get easier over time and I am so happy to have stuck with it.  There have been many days where I've had complete melt downs over what I can eat on-the-go and after searching for 30 minutes online for what I can eat at a restaurant I get there they tell me they have never heard of it (I still don't get that, Panera). Another example would be JUST YE...

Hey Ya'll!! SO, I will begin by saying that my motivation to blog over the last few weeks has been really low. I have truly experienced every emotion possible...happiness, excitement, love, sadness, anger, confusion, and so on. When you experience a loss it can weigh heavily on you. I experienced 2 in one week. Many know about my MawMaw passing away but very few know about the loss I experienced at work. I have learned so much in the last 2 weeks and the main thing is NOTHING goes as planned when you're going through the storm, but, when you're faced with the unthinkable you rise to the occasion.     You are no different from me. We all go through tough times but in any situation you seek out your strength and pray for understanding. I knew that I was chosen to go through this experience and I know this was not just a learning moment for me but a teachable moment as well. I can't move forward without letting my readers know how strong they are; Trust that you are po...