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The Importance of Forgiveness

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Hey y'all!! I wasn't feeling too hot today so instead of just sitting around I thought why not write a blog to close out the year.  Something has been on my heart for the last week or 2 and today I saw a status on Facebook about something very similar so I took that as a sign. So, I'd like to talk about forgiveness and why it's important to forgive those who have wronged you.  I'll be the first to admit that forgiveness hasn't always been my strong area. I could easily move on, shut people out, shade them when I see them, and keep it moving. But, recently forgiveness hit me like a ton of rocks. I felt happier, lighter, and overall I just felt good...a weight really had been lifted. I've always said forgiveness isn't for the other person it's for YOU. But in saying that I always remained a little hypocritical because I wasn't truly forgiving ALL of those individuals that I felt have wronged me. Today I can honestly say I have forgiven.  I

Dreamer

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Heeeey Readers!! One of my older blogs popped up on my Timehop today. Reading it reminded me that I loved blogging, it was a release, and it got me through some of my most difficult times. It's hard to believe it's already been OVER a year since my first blog post. Over the course of the last year and a half I've had trials and tribulations but I've also had some testimonies and teachable moments. I've found my happiness, my motivation, and my self love along the way. I'm truly blessed. I'm headed back home from Mississippi and I had the choice to finish this blog or connect with people and invite them to let me help them start changing their lifestyle. I came to the conclusion that blogging is my passion also so I can combine the 2 today. Touching lives is what I enjoy...truly helping others. One of the things I tell my challengers is in order to make change and see results you have to WANT it. Well I come today to tell you that's true in every as

Nobody Said the Road Would Be Easy: 1 Year Ago Today

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May 29, 2015 Wow!! I woke up to this memory on Facebook! It was the first image of myself  I saw! 1 year ago today!!! It's crazy how I look back at this picture and I now see that I was unhappy with myself, depressed, and ashamed. I remember taking everything out of my closet trying to find something that fit and I still angrily (sadness that comes out easier as anger) found nothing I thought I looked "good" in. I eventually settled for this dress. When I look back over what type of year we had last year I can see where the depression came from. The tears, the loss, the bad news, the scary stuff...it was never ending in 2015. This year has started off rocky but I'm claiming greatness this year! I can't go back to this place. This picture actually motivates me and keeps me going because I know where I don't want to be. I know that whatever we are faced with this year I need to deal with it in a healthy way. May 7, 2016 This is me now.

Don't Be Mad: My Business Isn't Yours

A lot has happened in a few weeks time and as my last post stated we are not always in control. I'm truly at a point today in which I have to trust what God is doing in myself and Emanuel's life. Trusting and having faith doesn't make the pain any easier, It doesn't make it go away. It simply gives me hope for a brighter future and a bigger plan for our life. One of the MOST important things I've learned throughout this process is to be careful what you say to people. I will no longer "fish" for information from people regarding their personal lives and personal problems. I won't make assumptions or suggestions about your life and what you should be doing right now at this time. Unless this information is solicited I will not make anyone as uncomfortable as I have been this last month. Even though we have no malice or ill intentions and we may be genuinely concerned (there are also people who just want to gossip) it's uncomfortable and really non

April Fool...

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Hey Y'all!!!  I'm not even sure where to start since I haven't posted a blog in almost 4 months!! Life comes at you fast and some things end up falling short. :( But we won't dwell on that little faux pas lol.  If you remember, I started out excited about this year and all it had to offer. GUESS WHAT...I am still just as excited today as I was then. I have been in a different place this year wanting to live as much of my life as I possibly can. Enjoying being with my husband and my friends and spending no time on the drama. I have always believed life is short and you only get one. April brought all of that into perspective for me. During the month of March and April Emanuel and I have had a jam packed schedule. I have literally had us scheduled with super fun weekend events and even did a little volunteering. I never expected April to be a month of learning but I was definitely pulled along for the ride..  April, in it's own special way, showed me that Emanue

"I don't look like what I've been through"

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Happy New Year, Readers!!!!  This is a new day and a new year so I wanted to start out with a NEW ATTITUDE! :) I have declared this will be a great year. I will not take people and moments for granted anymore. BUT, I will also not make myself available for people and situations that don't deserve my time or attention. This is not a New Year's Resolution this is my new way of life.  I hope you are ready to join me in surrounding yourself with positive and supportive people who give 100% to your relationship like you. Not only have I decided to make this change in my life I have also decided to not let my past define me. I have chosen a phrase to help me through the year and properly put an end to last year. Yea, I know what you're thinking..."a phrase? Shonda, you're crazy." But, I find that this inspires me and it also helps me self assess.  The phrase I chose is also my title "I don't look like what I've been through." If you don't